The Real Promise (and Power) of Social Media

by Ken Mueller on August 2, 2012 · 16 comments

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There is so much that we take for granted in our lives, and it usually happens when something moves from being “new, shiny, and special” to being just another ubiquitous part of our lives. That’s what has happened with social media, and it’s a wonderful thing.

As I write this, my oldest son is nearly 5,000 miles away in the Czech Republic for a 5-month internship, while my other son just returned from a two-week visit there. This was an opportunity that was never really available to me when I was in high school or college.

It wasn’t that long ago that communication between us would have been relegated to letters, and perhaps an incredibly expensive and difficult to make phone call if there was an emergency. Then email came along. And now, we are connected to them nearly every moment. While my older son has been over there, we have had frequent Skype calls, some lasting hours, just to talk about any little thing, including sports, movies, or whatever else is on our mind. The same things we would have chatted about in person. There are near daily Facebook chats as well, and I have to say it’s pretty incredible. We can even share videos and photos from both sides of the ocean.

My daughter recently graduated from college, and nearly every day she can be found online chatting, Skyping, Google Hangouting (??), and the like with one or more friends. For me, once I graduated from college, most of those relationships were dependent upon letters or phone calls, and therefore were diminished by time and distance.

Our family is connected in ways I never could have imagined just ten years ago. And very recently we reconnected with some old friends at a wedding whom we’ve maybe seen once in the past 22 years. But because of our social media connections, it felt so natural to be spending time with them and their kids. As we left the wedding, one of their college aged daughters thanked us for sitting with them because we had such a good time. And this is a young woman we’d met only once before, many years ago.

This is why I use social media. The ability to connect and reconnect, and yes, build meaningful relationships, even with people we’ve never met before. I was reminded of this several times recently, first in a post from Margie Clayman in which she talked about some of the important online connections in her life.

But I was also reminded about the power of connection in a client meeting. The chef/owner of a restaurant told me that every day in their pre-shift meeting they go over the names of regulars, so that everyone on the staff can identify them. They want their staff to connect with the people who dine there in a way that is deeper than just that of two parties involved in a transaction, and that’s the philosophy we are using as we build the restaurant’s social presence.

And then just this week several of my online friends were let go from their jobs as the result of a “reorganizing”. I met them through that company, and while I’ve never met them in person, I hurt for them. But unlike the “old days” I can maintain contact with them very easily and continue to develop those friendships.

Connecting with others is easier than it’s ever been, and we have the ability to control the level of connection. This is why I love social media and technology.

I believe that social media has the capability of making us better people. I believe that social media has the capability of making us better at business. And I believe that social media has the capability of making this world a better place.

As someone who works with businesses on their social presence online, I need to be reminded of the real power of social media from time to time. I can be so consumed by promoting my own business, and helping others promote their businesses, that I forget the real promise of social media:

Deeper, meaningful connections

While this can happen on the personal level, it can also happen on a professional level, and the businesses that understand this are the ones that will benefit the most.

It’s a mindset, not a program or strategy. Once you have the mindset, all of the rest of it will flow from that as you build those relationships and connections. It’s for this reason that I think those who are using social media personally before jumping into it from a business perspective will have an edge over those who view it solely as a tool for business and marketing.

They get it.

Do you?

 

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Howie Goldfarb
Howie Goldfarb

@KenMueller  you just wrote a post about the phrase I coined 'Social Media is a Revolution in Interpersonal Communication Technologies' and while marketing may of intruded and hijacked the technologies (as it intrudes and hijacks everything these days), it really is about people connecting with people.

It is pretty amazing what we take for granted btw just because we are used to having something...like a car or supermarket.

jkcallas
jkcallas

@StacyZapar Thank you Stacy, so do I listen when Stacy speak and so should world.... coz world would be just a big happy family XOX

MPNEngaged
MPNEngaged

@KarenRockhold1 @kmueller62 Yes.......social connecting is powerful. Those who r fearful do not understand how/why. I remain thankful.

margieclayman
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Thanks so much for the shout, Ken. You rock :)

It is weird - I was on a path to losing touch with a good number of college friends, and then social media came along and we all hopped back together again, just in the nick of time. I often wonder how many of those folks I'd still be in touch with otherwise. Very few. Very much fewer than I am. 

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KenMueller
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@margieclayman Agreed. And the interesting thing is I've reconnected with HS and college classmates who I didn't even really know that well at that time. But as the years pass, all of our little cliques and social groups no longer matter like they did back then, and we can connect better now.

mcahalane
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Love this, Ken! And you reminded me of my college years - when a week or so into freshman year, I got a phone call from my parents. (A happening in itself, and to the payphone in the dorm hall of course!) They were moving to the Middle East for a couple of years, taking my siblings with them. The next two years, my contact with my family was via letters. Oh they were treasured!As you say, how different is it today!I completely agree with you about the potential for social media to enrich us, to connect us in ways that would never have been possible... Of course, it's all in how we use it and why we use it, and whether we're interested in human connection. I have friends of many years who I have never met, might never meet, from message boards - they're real, living friends all the same. In the same way, I've met so many wonderful people through Twitter.It's a real gift, if that's how you see it.

annedreshfield
annedreshfield

Definitely get it. I've been involved with online communities for as long as I can remember (before social media! gasp!), and I've made some lifelong friends. Social media just downright makes it easier to stay in touch with people. I've moved several times in my life -- I've never stayed in a place longer than 7 years -- and I'm certain that I would have completely fallen out of touch with a lot of people in my life if I couldn't connect with them online. That being said, it's not like I'm chatting with them everyday or even every month or year, but the possibility is there, and that's what's important to me. You seem to think the same thing, Ken. We don't have to write letters longhand anymore. The possibility and promise of communication is there, and that's the best part.

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C_Pappas
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I totally get it. In fact, people tell me all the time that I am missing out because I am not on Facebook and do not connect there. Has social media made it easier for us to connect? Do i prefer texting certain people to avoid the conversation? Does this make my relationship stronger because I have the ability to do something other than nothing - maybe. Social media is powerful - I give you that (I enjoy it immensely for several reasons)

I love this restaurant example too! It's very cool that someone thought of doing this.

KenMueller
KenMueller moderator

@C_Pappas Well, we won't talk about your use or non-use of Facebook....But you are missing out...

katskrieger
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I love the restaurant example Ken. It's those things that make such a difference as a customer. There is a local brick oven pizza/cannoli place we frequent and it means the world as a customer when they engage with us as regulars. It's such a little thing, but makes me tell all my friends about this place. Of course, the amazing pizza and cannolis don't hurt either.

Side note: Love the blog image. That is such a great children's book. M loves it. :-)

KenMueller
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@katskrieger This client is really interesting. She is a classically trained chef who trained and worked in NYC and London, and came back home to open this restaurant. She contacted me through a referral just to help her with her Facebook presence quickly in a barter deal. I told her that while I might do that, I'd rather sit down with her, look at what she is doing across the board, and make a full proposal. We met, and she clearly got it, and now she is one of my best clients. Her social presence and web presence are improving, I have her blogging (with recipes!), and they are already seeing the bump in traffic with some of our efforts. She just has the proper mindset, and it's great to see her out walking around and mingling with the customers. In fact, I'm eating there for lunch today for a meeting.

If you guys ever make it down this way, I will definitely take you there. You'll love it. 

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