Are You a Generous Socialite?

by Ken Mueller on November 23, 2011 · 2 comments


This guest post is from my friend Paul Atkinson. Paul describes himself as a pretty simple guy inspired by leading well and serving others. He loves connecting with new people and spending time with his family. He serves as the 20somethings Pastor and York Campus Pastor at LCBC Church in Central Pennsylvania.

I recently read Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. It’s a great read that shows you what the most effective people do differently. One quote in particular grabbed my attention:

If you have an area of expertise and generously share it with others, you give people reasons to respect you and develop a sense of connection with you.


Generously Share. Develop Connection. It is easy to spot folks who are generous, especially online. Consequently, it’s obvious those who are not. You know the person I’m talking about: they can’t send you a tweet or leave a comment on your blog without trying to sell their own goods. They have an annoying ability to exalt their own worth at the expense of your best efforts. You can spot them a mile away.

So how do I become the Generous Socialite, not the greedy one? Here are 3 thoughts:


Do this first. It’s important to join a conversation within the proper context. And context is so important to establishing common ground so that meaningful connection can take place. This means you have to be generous with your time because it takes time to involve yourself in the conversations and lives of others.


What if a good percentage of your contributions came from you sharing the expertise of others, even before your own? What if you helped someone else be heard? What if you were their sharing advocate because you enjoyed helping others? I’ll bet that if you’ll choose to be proactive in demonstrating generosity this way, others will return the favor.


I don’t know a single person who doesn’t appreciate being encouraged. Take time to not only challenge and critique, but be generous with encouragement as well.

So take what you have, take your expertise, and be extremely generous with it! People will respect it, gravitate towards you, and there’s a great chance that meaningful connections will result.

Mike McCaffrey
Mike McCaffrey

Yes. I think if we're able to be generous with our time and with what we've learned, we get it back. Which is nice.

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