Social Media & Secret Santa: An Experiment in Community

by Ken on November 17, 2009 · 6 comments

Secret Santa

On Twitter yesterday I mused about how my Twitter friends and I could do some sort of Secret Santa kind of event. I’ve participated in these at a lot of work places, and at my one job in NYC, we had it down to a science.

So now the question is: in a social media world, how do we pull this off? I like this idea because gift-giving is an exercise in community. In order to “buy” the perfect gift for someone, you need to get to know them. It is this sort of relationship that is the building block of community.

First off, while Twitter is a community in and of itself, it is made up of numerous co-existing and entwined communities. We are all members of numerous communities. Here in Lancaster, and even beyond to Central PA, we have a very strong geographical community that is mirrored on Twitter. The York, Lancaster, and Harrisburg Twitter folks all have local tweet-ups, and there is some overlap. It’s a very natural and organic thing.

So for a Secret Santa to work, all of those involved probably have to be part of the same community. So there may need to be some limitations, because in order to “purchase” a gift for someone else, you really should know them.

Here is my proposal and I would love to see a variety of online communities try this. Give this a look (this is me thinking out loud) and comment below. I’d love to hear any flaws in this plan, as well as hear your improvements.

  • Those who want to participate sign up by a certain date.
  • Somehow, magically, the names are distributed. I just found SecretSanta.com but I’ll have to investigate how well it works first.
  • Once everyone knows their counterpart, they create a fictional Twitter account they can use to send nice messages to their recipient. All of these fictional names can be put together in a special Twitter list so everyone in the group can follow everyone else and see what’s going on.
  • Then, here is where it gets tricky. On a set date, each person tweets a link to the item they have “hand chosen” for their recipient. And try to make it the perfect gift. It can be as big or as little as you like, since it won’t cost you anything.
  • An added element would be to have everyone try to guess the identity of their Secret Santa.
  • And for a twist, you could have the “unveil” at a tweet-up, but it’s usually hard to get everyone together for this. But we could have an optional tweet-up at the finale for a cookie exchange, as one of my friends suggested.
  • There is always the option to include real gifts, rather than virtual gifts, but if we did that, I would suggest that there be a very low price limit, and require that everything be “local”. Handmade would work as well.

So what are your thoughts? Seems like a great community builder. Changes? Let me know and maybe we can implement this here in Lancaster/Central PA.

I eagerly await your comments and suggestions. Let’s do it!

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I love this idea! What if you considered adding a "giving back" piece to it. The participants could identify some causes that are important to them. Their secret santas would then (in addition to sending the nice messages) pick one of the causes and support it however they chose. The support could be a monetary donation, donated items, or volunteer service. Therefore no one would be eliminated from participating based on finances. You would ask people to list two or three causes to avoid the situation if a Santa having to support something they fundamentally disagree with. The santas would not have to disclose how much they contributed. If you did have a tweetup at the end, however, it would be great to have people share sone of the causes that they supported.
That's my two cents, but I'm in no matter what you decide!

I'm not so sure about having another twitter account. It's enough to run one. One thing that could be done is gather the usernames of all participating, then make sure you are following all of them. That way, we'll all get to know each other.

Two concerns:

1)Real gifts, homemade, local or not, cost money. I don't want to limit participation based on spending real money.

2) We seem to have a real problem getting EVERYONE to a tweetup. If not everyone can show up, then some people go without getting their gifts.

I personally love these ideas, but want to make this the best experience for everyone. My gut reaction is to go for the virtual gifts, with a reveal on a particular Friday, and then have an optional "real" get together for those who can make it, and just have a great holiday party.

As for violating the Twitter terms of service, these really aren't "fictional" Twitter accounts. It's just us having one more account where we don't fully reveal who we are! It's not like we are pretending to be a celebrity or someone else. I think we're on firm ground there.

I love this idea!

I'd recommend we go the way of the handmade, local gifts as I think it further personalizes the experience all the more for the giver/receiver. I'd suggest that those participating get together at a Holiday potluck tweet-up to exchange the gifts.

I think this is a neat idea! And how much fun would it be to receive a real gift. I do see folks reluctant to give out their address though??? So, maybe it's best to play the game virtually in the social media realm. Man, just imagine...we could all get Porsches!!! LOL! I'd actually prefer the new Camaro in Bumblebee-style, hint hint!

I like the idea of a real gift (like you said homemade or local and low priced). Then do the fictional account like you said and you can send messages to get to know the other person. What about setting a date for a get together up front? Do it on a weekend...maybe a Sunday since a lot of us are in the wedding business and work on Saturdays. You could see who all is interested and see what date works best for the majority.

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